We all want to live long, happy lives. But what's the key? According to groundbreaking research from Harvard, the biggest predictor of longevity isn't diet, exercise or even genetics. It's the quality of your relationships.
The Harvard Study of Adult Development is one of the world's longest studies of adult life, having tracked the health of 724 men for nearly 80 years. And the biggest finding? Those with the warmest relationships lived substantially longer and happier lives than those with fewer social ties.
"The study showed that the warmth of your relationships has as much effect on your life as whether you smoke or how much you weigh," said Robert Waldinger, director of the study and a psychiatry professor at Harvard Medical School.
Those with supportive family, friends and community ties reported being happier and healthier as they aged. In contrast, those who were more isolated struggled with declining health and mental abilities later in life.
The reason seems to be that positive relationships relieve stress, give a sense of purpose, and provide emotional support during difficult times. Social integration also appears to boost immune function and cardiovascular health.
But it's not just about having relationships - it's about the quality of those bonds. "It's not just the number of friends you have, but the warmth of your relationships that matters most," Waldinger said. "It's the quality of your close relationships that predicts not just how happy you'll be, but how healthy you'll be into your 80s."
So, while taking care of your body is crucial, don't neglect your relationships. Investing time in your closest family ties and cultivating warm, supportive friendships may be one of the greatest keys to a longer, happier life.
I am aware that this study did not include any women so although we cannot say definitively that the same finding is true for women. I view it as it is at least directional, and I can only antidotally be able to say how much happier and fulfilled I am with having strong and close relationships with my family, friends and my healing community. This study was one of the reasons why I wanted to not just create a business for a yoga and meditation studio. The number one goal is to create a community for people to be a part of.
Citation: Waldinger, R. (2015). What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness [Video]. TED Conferences. https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness
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